Passively waiting for a hottie to make a move is simply not acceptable behavior for a fearless Cosmo chick like yourself. Sure, it can be a little intimidating to approach a dude, but it puts you in control of your dating destiny, and besides—guys really like it. “Men find it refreshing when a female asks them out,” Says Rhonda Findling, psychotherapist and author of The Dating Cure. “Beyond that, it’s empowering for the woman.” Some tips for taking this bold step.
1. Buy Him a Drink
If a guy catches your eye while you’re out with friends, send over a beer. Since it forces him to make the next move and say thank you, it’s a stealth way of letting him know you’re interested.
2. Suggest a Super Guy-Friendly Outing
Try to gauge what the guy you’ve set your sights on is into. Here’s how: As you’re chatting him up, ask him what he did over the weekend. Then, casually suggest something similar— whether it be going out for wings or to the batting cages— for the following Friday.
3. Invite Him on a Group Date
If you can’t quite bring yourself to suggest solo time together, try inviting him out with a bunch of your friends which will make you feel more at ease. One caveat: Avoid having your Giselle look-a-like pal tag along— you want to make sure his eyes stay glued to you.
4. If You Lose Your Nerve...
Really can’t bring yourself to invite a dude out? Then give him the green light to ask you. After flirting for a bit say something like, “Have you heard about this new movie? I’ve been dying to see it.” It will give him the perfect opportunity to suggest you see it together—and because you’ve hinted at what you want to do, it takes some of the planning pressure off him. Perfect!
你可以高談闊論如何當個現代豪放女，但你早該有所行動了!當然，我們會從旁協助。
你是無所不能的柯夢波丹豪放女，絕不能只等著帥哥邀約。我知道約男人可能會讓你望之卻步，不過你卻可以掌控自己的桃花運，而且男人都很喜歡女人主動 (這樣做)。身兼心理治療師與《約會秘訣》作者的 Rhonda Findling 說過：「女人如果主動出擊，男人會很感到很新奇。而且，女人可以從中學到積極的態度。」
以下是放膽追求男人的小秘訣。
1. 請他喝杯酒
與朋友聚會時如果相中某個男人，不妨請他喝杯酒。如此一來，他非得向你致謝不可，你就可偷偷讓他知道你對他有好感。
2. 提議去做男人超愛的活動
試著問出你看中的男人喜歡什麼，方法如下：跟他親切交談時，問他週末都在幹什麼，然後隨口邀他下禮拜去做類似的活動，不管是吃烤雞翅，還是到棒球練習場打球。
3. 邀他參加團體聯誼
如果真的無法開口邀男人單獨出遊，就請他參加朋友聚會，這樣你會比較輕鬆自在。給個良心的建議：別讓那些魔鬼身材、天使臉孔的朋友跟著，你得讓男人的眼中只有你。
4. 鼓不起勇氣開口，該怎麼辦？
無法開口邀男人？那就製造機會讓他邀你。你在調情一陣子之後可以說：「嗯，你聽過那部新電影嗎？我老早就想去看了。」這樣，他就可順道邀你看電影。你已經暗示他你想做什麼，某些邀約的壓力便可落在男人身上。真是有夠讚!
To talk a good game means that someone sounds sincere and/or knowledgeable about an issue, but is, in fact, not to be trusted.
2. Put your money where your mouth is = (idom) to do something rather than to just talk about it. (告訴別人不要說大話，要以實際行動來證明)
I finally realized that I should stop complaining about the people who run our town, put my money where my mouth is, and run for office.
3.
Chat sb up = talk to sb in a friendly way or flirtatious manner in order to gain his or her confidence 和某人親切或輕挑地交談
Who was that pretty girl you were chatting up last night?
go out for wings = 外出吃烤雞翅 (eg Buffalo Wild Wings Grill & Bar)
You don't have to go out for wings when you have this recipe
The batting cages = 打擊練習場
4. Caveat = (fml 文) warning 警告
5. Giselle = 膾炙人口的芭蕾舞劇吉賽兒(Giselle)
Look-alike = person who has a very similar appearance to sb else 與某人極相似
A Marilyn Monroe look-alike contest (模仿瑪莉蓮夢露形象的比賽)
6. Pal = (infml口) friend 朋友
We’ve been pals for years. (我們是多年朋友)
7. Tag = 標籤
Put a name-tag on it.
Tag question = 附加疑問句
Let’s go, shall we?
It’s beautiful, isn’t it?
Tag along (with/behind/ after sb)= follow closely 緊隨
Children tagging along behind their mother.
If you’re going to (see) a movie, do you mind if I tag along (with you)?
8. Lose one’s nerve = to panic/ to fear doing sth (害怕做某件事)
Bill lost his nerve and wouldn't try to ski down the hill.
As、when 與 while 的用法
1. As 的用法
指有過程的動作
--I watched her as she put on her make-up.
--They marched in protest of the arrest, chanting ‘God is love’ as they went along.
用於敘述發展或演變
--As recession continues to deepen, it becomes even harder for them to find suitable
jobs.
--As the election day came nearer, mud-slinging and violence got even worse.
--As he became older his eyesight became deteriorated.
--As years went on, he lost interest in everything except the spiritual.
2. When 的用法
At or during the time that (當--- 時)
--It was raining when we arrived.
--When he saw her run into the field, he secretly followed
--When visiting
3. While 的用法
During the time that 在---期間
--He fell asleep while (he was) doing his homework. (他做著做著功課就睡著了)
--While I was in
--While (locked up) in prison, he wrote his first novel. (他在獄中寫了第一部小說)
--Tom took some photos to document the blooms and animal life while I was away.
(我不在時，湯姆拍了些照片來記錄花草生長與動物活動)
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